All Things Grief & Loss

Death truly stings. There's no other way to put it. Whether it is an unexpected tragedy or a prolonged process: the reality of death is painful. It upends every aspect of life. It causes a visceral ache for the loved ones left behind. And it reminds us of the deeply vulnerable and fragile state of our mortality. (Which is why most people don't want to touch the concept of death-and-dying with a 10ft pole).

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But our fear of death makes life incredibly isolating and confusing for those of us who cannot avoid its reality. People pray for healing for a terminal diagnosis, but then flail whenever prayers remain "unanswered" and abandon the ones facing death. We say that "everything happens for a reason," but then fail to sit with people in the midst of everything happening. We claim to show up for others, but then do not know how to be with the unbearable tension of not having a reason for the cancer diagnosis, the random act of violence, or the unthinkable circumstance that led someone to die by suicide.

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If you are reading this, I can imagine you have faced or are facing death and for that, I am truly sorry. Nothing can be said or done to negate the pain of your grief. 

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You do not have to walk through the process of death & dying or grief & loss alone. And although therapy by no means will "solve," "fix," or help you to "get over" your grief, it can enable you to make sense of your emotions and reactions in the grieving process and to lament in a way that honors the people whom you mourn & miss.